Monday, January 19, 2015

4 Reasons It Is Time to Let Him Go!!!



1.   He isn’t saved!

Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? - 2 Corinthians 6:14 NKJV

Relationships can be hard, even Godly relationships because everything will never be perfect, but you two understand that it’s worth it and you work towards making it work! So with all that being said if a Godly relationship can be hard and you two both believe in Jesus Christ and are living lives that are pleasing to God; how hard do you think a relationship will be if only one loves God and wants to serve him while the other isn’t thinking about God and is consumed and content with being in the world?? No need to answer that I can answer it for you…EXTREMELY!!! I’ve been in a relationship like this before. I can tell you now I’m not in THAT relationship anymore, it was draining and worrisome. I knew I was NEVER supposed to be in that relationship. Sometimes, as a woman we want to MOLD & CHANGE a man into what we WANT….but ultimately nobody can do that but God himself. Don’t be that woman 2, 4, 6 years from now wondering “why did I waste all my time trying to change a man that was never ready to change in the first place.”


2.   He clearly tells you that he isn’t ready for a relationship!

Can two walk together, unless they are agreed? - Amos 3:3 NKJV

If you have sought God and have been approved to be in a courtship and you meet a man that says “I’m not ready for a relationship.” You all are CLEARLY walking in two totally different directions. Omg!!! PLEASE listen to this man and RUNNNNN for the hills!!!  If you ask a man for TRUTH 8 times out of 10 (ok maybe less than that lol) he’ll give you truth!! I’ve talked to so many beautiful young women that feel like they can be that game changer to find out later on down the line that his word really is bond and he SERIOUSLY isn’t ready for a relationship. This does NOTHING but waste valuable time that could have been used to prepare for the man that is truly willing and ready to pursue you unto marriage.

3.   His actions speak opposite of his words!

My little children, let us not love in word or in tongue, but in deed and in truth. - 1 John 3:18 NKJV

If he tells you that he loves you and wants to be with you but refuses to make a commitment to you, I hate to be the bearer of bad news but he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you. It could be because he isn’t ready, but he likes the company of having you around. Well let me tell you this sista! You are worth soooo much more than just good company. If a man truly values you and sees the wonderful qualities you possess, nothing can stop him from pursuing you. Sista! Don’t be that woman that says “ I’m not that into titles and we don’t need one, because he tells me and shows me that he loves me.” Ummmm according to the way things are looking outside my window, we are living in our last days and NOBODY on this earth has time to waste. You deserve to know what direction you two are going in.

4.   He is willing to compromise your purity!

For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; 4 that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, 5 not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God;  - 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 NKJV

 DISCLAIMER: I haven’t always lived up to the standard, but thank God for his Son who dead for our redemption and he forgives and we can start all over! Let me start by saying, I know everybody is doing it, it’s on TV, social media, and the topic of discussion, but you are not of this world!! You are a child of God and you are called and held at a higher standard than those in the world. We must stand for holiness, because it is the standard and it keeps our minds from being blurred and our thoughts easily persuaded by what we believe is love when truly it is only lust.

 So now, back to our scheduled program; if he is willing to lay down with you without any conviction in his heart, it’s time to let him go. He is supposed to lead you to Christ not his bed! He is supposed to truly love you for who you are not lust you because of how you make him feel between the sheets. Don’t act as though you don’t know God just because you have a nice looking man in front of your face. Believe me no matter how HOT and FINE he is a moment of pleasure isn’t worth a lifetime of eternal pain.



***I hope & pray that this post has been of some help and a blessing to your life! THANK YOU FOR TUNING IN!!! There is EVEN MORE COMING SOON!!!


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Monday, January 12, 2015

"She is MORE Precious Than..."



She is more precious than rubies, And all the things you may desire cannot compare with her. - Proverbs 3:15 NKJV

Perhaps you’ve seen or heard this scripture before but haven’t really grasped the FULL meaning of it. Wellll let’s go there….
A ruby is fiery red in color; due to an element called chromium. A ruby is known to be the queen of stones, the most royal of all gemstones. While doing much research on rubies I discovered that a real ruby can generally cost anywhere from the hundreds to millions of dollars. Rubies are imperfect, but in their imperfection is where they are valued the most. There are treatments that can change their clarity and make them more beautiful to the eye, but ultimately it diminishes their value. There is so much more to know and understand about rubies, but I just wanted to give you a taste of it. That was pertinent information that we needed to know regarding rubies. This background story helps us understand our worth a lot better.

Soooo , because God is omniscient (all knowing) he knows the value of a ruby, but yet he has declared that we are worth MORE than rubies. WOOOOOW!! Does that not blow your mind or what. I am in awe and so should you! My sista!!! We are worth FAR MORE than rubies!! We are worth more than something that is potentially worth millions of dollars. My goodness!!! So therefore, if it has the potential to be worth millions of dollars; what could your worth possibly be?? How about PRICELESS!!! With all the numbers in the world collectively put together, there isn’t a number that would amount to your worth. You are priceless my sista you are beautiful, intelligent, amazing, anointed, equipped, called, and ordained.

Even in your imperfection you are ALL of these and much more. If you tried to polish or hide your imperfections you would be diminishing your value. Just like the rubies and the treatments that the jeweler would take them through to make them “look better”. No! God says that you are beautiful and priceless in your current stage. It doesn’t matter, what you look like or feel like for that matter. God said what he said and he isn’t a man that has to lie.

He also said that nothing can compare to us, we are not to be compared with anything because we are more precious than anything. Sista, never let someone make you feel like you are worth nothing when God has made it clear that you are worth much more than anything on this earth. No matter your background, neighborhood, color, hair, or any imperfection that you may have. Please understand that this isn’t a pass for you to walk around cocky and looking down on others, but to walk around with confidence that your value is incomparable.  MY SISTA!!! YOU ARE MORE PRECIOUS THAN RUBIES, AND ALL THE THINGS YOU MAY DESIRE CANNOT COMPARE TO YOU! So walk with confidence, and carry yourself as such! I love you sista! Continually be blessed!!!

**TEASER** Once you know that you are priceless and not to be purchased or put up for sale on sale comes the realizations that you deserve the best. If God would send his ONLY son for someone like us (john 3:16); what does that say? No worries, I have the answer!!! It says that we are WORTH it!!! Because God was willing to FREELY GIVE his BEST, which says a lot about his love and thoughts toward us. Please stay tuned for a post later this week regarding his love for us.

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Wednesday, January 7, 2015

Please Allow Me To Introduce Myself


Hello World & Happy New Year!!!!
I am exxxxxcited!!! This here blog is lonnnnng over due. I’ve needed to do this for years, but there is no better time than now. This blog doesn’t have one certain topic; it will cover an array of things life as a young adult Christian, fashion, dyi, & more, but first let me give you a little back ground on me.  My name is Tia Pugh, I am 25 years old (BD: January 29th, TURNUP 4 JesusChrist!!) I truly met Jesus in the early year of 2010. I say met him then, because for so many years I was in and out of church and never really knew what it was like to personally KNOW Jesus. I had heard about him and thought wow this guy sounds loyal, loving, and real. I wish I were worthy enough to know him. (little did I know I WAS!!)

There came a time when I was fed up with my lifestyle and how I was living; stealing, selling drugs, smoking, drinking, and partying just to name a few. I decided with a much needed nudge that it was time to FULLY give my life to Christ. It was time to take up my cross and start going down the path less travelled for the GLORY of my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. I started praying to the Lord to deliver me from the things that I had been entangled in for so many years. I promise you this wasn’t an easy transition but it was a lot smoother than what I would have ever imagined. One of the first things I had to change was my language; I was one of those every other word was a curse word type of females (totally unattractive, I know!). I had a lot of ratchet (ghetto) friends; a lot of them were frequently addressed as female dogs. But I’ll never forget I had this one friend that was saved and I knew to never address her as a female dog, but one day I got out my body and called her one and she hit me with scripture “Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers.” – Ephesians 4:29 NKJV. I was out done, I was so salty, like my face was stiff I didn’t know how to respond but nevertheless I apologized and realized “Tia you’ve got to get yourself together!” I never imagined that I’d be able to communicate without using profanity, but please believe me: For with God nothing will be impossible. – Luke 1:37 NKJV

 Once I started praying and reading more of God’s word not only did my language change my mind set changed. I began to see all the things that I truly needed to change about me, the areas that I needed to allow God to work and move the way he wanted to in my life. I surrendered TOTALLY; I walked away from friends with lifestyles that weren’t conducive to where I was trying to go, I stopped going to the club, I put down all alcoholic beverages and stopped smoking, no more stealing from every store I went too, I gave back the pills I had to sell, and I cut off the random guys I had been having relations with. I just layed it ALL down to pick up my cross and start following Jesus daily.  
On Friday nights while everybody was turning up in the club I was at home turning the pages of my bible and listening to praise and worship music. It was a total transformation, a lot of people that had known me started asking a lot of questions they couldn’t understand but they had to know it was VERY serious for me to be able to change.
I NEVER thought I could transform in such a way. Don't me wrong just because I totally gave my life to the LORD doesn't mean I lost my personality, I'm still outspoken, bubbly, and very outgoing (never met a stranger), I’m not perfect nor will I ever be perfect, I'm not a bible scholar, I wasn't in church every Sunday morning and Wednesday evening growing up, I haven't completely arrived at my destiny, but I can say I am serious about my walk and I am serious about my Fathers business.

 I hope and pray that you all join in on this ride that I am about to partake in from serious topics concerning life as a young adult Christian, dyi projects, hair tips, plus size fashion tips and more.
 
 
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  5. Google+: +Tia Pugh 
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  8. If you would like to sow into this blog, please do so via PayPal email: HolyGhostGirl21@ymail.com