Monday, May 8, 2017

Is Dating a Distraction?

Have you ever gotten to know someone and then after multiple interactions they hit you with the "I am not in the place to date because I am too busy working on my life goals". Well ladies that was me.
I was getting to know someone and although I felt that everything was going in the right direction things began to shift. You see I started to make excuses for this man and saying to myself "he was right, we both were too busy for a relationship". After much prayer the lord revealed to me that there is a season for everything. (Ecclesiastes 3:1) (Ecclesiastes 3:8) He revealed to me that the issue was not time, but how we effectively communicate and balance our lives. 
For the first time in years I came to a realization that I always made excuses for a man’s disappointment.  I realized that what he was saying was being sugar coated. In short I realized that his statement "I am not in the place to date because I am too busy" was a polite way to say "I like you, but not ENOUGH to date you".  

You see I look at powerful couples such as the Obamas, Will and Jada Smith, the Beckhams, and the Timberlake's and realize that they ALL have two things in common. One being, that they work together as a team to achieve goals beyond this world and two they've chosen each other to do life with. I believe these dynamic duos support and encourage each other daily! 
Don’t get me wrong, I have seen relationships which definitely where distractions.  For instance I was in a relationship where I gave up on my dreams because my partner did not care to understand my vision. This relationship ended in infidelity and left me in a state of vulnerability where I had to do a lot of soul searching.

During my soul searching, I realized that the relationship I want to build is one where my partner and I are working together and growing together to build a sustaining partnership. A relationship built on God, friendship, trust, honesty, genuine affection, loyalty, and respect. This type of relationship would take focus, drive, and balance from both parties to achieve God affirmed goals. This relationship right here will be an equally yoked relationship and will NOT be a distraction. 
I am a person who calculates all risk because I am not a risk taker. It's unfortunate that the feelings I had were not reciprocated, but I know that this rejection was God's protection. I know my worth and an "I'm sorry I'm not in a place to date" is no longer a good enough statement for me! It's time to STOP making excuses for these men and realize that I am the PRIZE! 

With Love,

Emi

Emi Valerio is an Empowerment Coach and Founder of She Commands, LLC. Emi
 supports women to confidently embrace their singleness by releasing negative blocks, 
upgrading their mindset and walking into their God given LIFE purpose. Through She 
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during their 'single season'.

Holding a BA in Sociology, MS in Counseling, and an Advanced Certificate in Bilingual 
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Saturday, December 31, 2016

2016 Taught Me....



2016 has been soooooooooooo different for me! I've learned so much within this year and I'm excited to tell you some of the incredible things I've learned!! I don't want to keep you too long so I'm going to jump right into it! 

Put God first and watch what amazing things can happen.
  • WHOOOOA!! This is so real! I allowed God to really have his way in my life this year and He did some amazing things that I hadn't planned for myself. He started a business that I had never thought of for myself, he helped me come to terms with the calling on my life and when I accepted it for what it was He elevated me and put me at the table with people I once looked up too. 


God will never lead you in the wrong direction 
  • Even though I had my doubts...(yep! I said I doubted God, don't get too deep on me as if you have never doubted God.) that God loved me enough to really do a great work in my life, because of all the hardship I had experienced. I really begin to doubt His promises. But I learned that it doesn't matter what the situation looks like when God has favored you it's only a part of His divine plan for your life. If you're experiencing extreme hardship right now I urge you to CONTINUE believing in the promises of God because He knows what He is doing. 

Be bold and radical in your prayers 

  • If you want it ask for it! God told us in Psalm 37:4 "Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He shall give you the desires of your heart." - Because you have delighted yourself in Him he wants to give you the desires of your hearts so don't be afraid to ask our Father for what you want. Along with this, be sure that you believe your bold and radical prayers. I'll be the first to admit that I've asked God for some things (big and small) that I just didn't think He cared even to deliver to me and sure enough.....

Serve before you sale

  • Don't you dare think about selling before serving! When you're a believer and you're doing business your model should be completely different than the model of the world. You have to give before you receive. One reason I believe my businesses have been so successful this year because long before I launched them I served and I served heavily. I gave a lot of myself, I would dedicate days to praying for people on social media. One on one prayers for each person, I'd type up every prayer and send it to out!! God really had His way in those prayers, I would receive so many testimonials!!! So, before you launch ANYTHING be sure to SERVE FIRST.

Collaborations supercharge your brand
  • We're better together. THIS PART!!! RIGHT HERE!!! This is one of the reasons I have grown so much, the reasons I've had special opportunities, the reason I've had so many clients, the reason I've been able to make a sustainable income from my businesses. Yes, I accredit it all to collaboration! I know you've heard the saying "it's not what you know but who you know!" Well, let's just say that has been my story this entire year!! I know people - thank God!

Getting help isn't a bad thing
  • I may or may not have told you...that I healed from a terribly toxic relationship this year, well I accredit that to God and my therapist!! Yep, I said therapist! I know it's uncommon to hear about people in the urban community seeking therapy and that's a problem within itself but when I met with my former mentor at the beginning of the year she encouraged me to get help and boy did I need it!!!! I had to be REAL with myself concerning my mental health and get the help I needed. I promise you it isn't a bad thing to get help so if you NEED help get it. Don't wait, don't hesitate!

Invest in yourself
  • Don't expect people to invest in you if you're not willing to. When I say the word invest you might automatically think financially, but actually I'm talking about all around investments, mentally, spiritually, physically. I was willing to invest in my mental health this year (which is a HUGE investment), which had some fantastic benefits. I've also invested in learning various things that would make my businesses run smoother and enhance how I serve my audience, yes this has been a financial investment but it has helped me grow and that is what is the most important to me and my clients grow, so therefore every bit of it has been worth it.

Giving back is a MUST
  • I've always had a giving heart. Now that the Lord has blessed me with MORE I often times invest in others! I love to help and give back to people that need it the most. I've been able to mentor a handful of people for FREE this year, which not only helped them but blessed me to be able to give back to my brothers and sisters. 

Don't listen to the naysayers 
  • LISTEN! LISTEN! LISTEN! If I listened to the naysayers I wouldn't be where I am today!! The ONLY reason I am where I am today is because I listen to GOD and not man! When I first launched my t-shirt business a FEW people literally told me "Nobody is going to purchase that shirt, it's too high. You need to change the colors!  I'm not into that." Please don't listen to man when God is the Man with the plan! Follow His lead He will never lead you astray. 

Parenting is NO JOKE!
  • I tip my hat off to my parents. Soooo this year I took on the responsible of raising my niece and it has been an interesting adventure, to say the least. First of all, she is a TEENAGER so that speaks volumes!!! I don't know the first thing about raising a teenager, but I'm grateful that I have my mom to help me as well as God leading the way. I'm open to any NEW tips, tools, and techniques!! lol EMAIL ME! 
I hope and pray that what I've learned has helped in some way shape or form, drop a comment, share, or send me an email forreal lol

Until next time I love you.....ttyl! :-)

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Friday, December 30, 2016

Reevaluate your relationships - These people don't deserve a spot in 2017


With 2017 gaining on our heels we have some serious decisions to make! One of those decisions is who will be walking alongside us in 2017, this can be beneficial or detrimental to the success of your 2017. I've compiled a list of people that I will NOT be taking into 2017 and I thought it might be helpful to share it with you!!

THE LIST:

The Doubter
  • These are basically the negative nancies! The one that always doubts every dream, vision, and goal and doesn't want you to believe what God has promised you. These people deposit things in your spirit that don't align with the word of God. These people are very persuasive in getting you to stop believing in yourself. 


The Phony
  • These are the people in your life that are made of plastic. These are the fake people in your life. These are the friends that play like they are your friends but really aren't. 


The Manipulative
  • These are the people that like to play mind games with you to get what they want from you. These people never back down, they swear that they are always right. They want you to see things their way. They like to blackmail you and con you into doing what they want you to do. They want to control your life and other relationships. 

The Magician
  • These are the people that are always doing a disappearing act in your life. They come in your life for 2 weeks, disappear for 3 months. They are constantly coming in and leaving out. They are actually playing on your emotions because they are stringing you along for the time being then they dip out without any signs of doing so. 


The Liar
  • These are the people that lie for absolutely no reason. They lie simply because they have a tongue, a mouth, a voice. This one is very simple...RUN!!


The Hater
  • These are the people that smile in your face all the while trying to take you place, back stabber, back stabber!! *my ojs voice* lol ok seriously, though, these are the people that you think are your friends, but in reality, they are envious of you. 


The Gossiper
  • These are the person that is always spreading someone's business around town, social media, on the job, and anywhere else they can. They are always talking down about others. These are usually the people that keep mess going, the messy people. And when you think about it if they are talking about other people to you they are probably talking about you to other people. Yes! And nobody has time for that foolery. 


The Bougie
  • These are usually the people walking around looking at people as if they stink because they think they are better than everyone. And I am totally on board for people being confident within themselves, but these people are stuck up, arrogant, and rude. They are always in competition with people that very well may be paying them no mind. 
Take this last day in 2016, to reevaluate your relationships so that you DON'T allow these people to walk into your 2017.




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Thursday, October 20, 2016

Our Mouth Needs An Alignment pt. 2


Often times we speak things over our lives that do not align with the Word of God at all and then we wonder why things don't work out the way we hoped, dreamed, and even prayed. Yep! I said it. Even the things we pray about never manifest because our mouths aren't in alignment with our prayers. You would think that if we prayed a thing we would believe it right? Well, unfortunately, that isn't always the case.

I've been saying all year that if we were to change our language we would change our world. And I'll be listing a few things we say too often vs. what the Word of God says.


LET'S SHIFT OUR LANGUAGE


We say: I'm scared and powerless!

Word says: For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and love and of a sound mind. - 2 Timothy 1:7

First and foremost, fear is NOT of God! The enemy would love to make you think that fear is a healthy emotion but it's not it's actually a toxic emotion and it is not from the LORD!! Maybe I should say that again - FEAR IS NOT FROM GOD!!

Let me tell you a little about my history with fear! I allowed fear to literally rob me of incredible opportunities for months, years, and decades because I was always scared of actually becoming successful in my craft - crazy huh?? IKR! crazy as all get out! lol, don't judge a sista!! She was a scary cat! 

I'll be honest and tell you that it wasn't until this year, sweet 16` that I decided I was no longer going to be bound in fear and miss out on the great things that God has for me and since then I've been running!! Without looking back! It's an amazing thing to truly believe that you have POWER, LOVE, & A SOUND MIND!! Then to show the enemy what He thought He could control, he actually can't anymore. What a relief I'm telling you!

I never want to hear you say that you're scared and powerless again!

We say: I just don't get this, I don't know what to do.

Word says: Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding, in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your path. - Proverbs 3:5-6

Be sure to acknowledge God's hand in your situation! Soooooooooooo many times we start giving the enemy credit for whatever is going on in our life, maybe because it is uncomfortable. When in reality, whatever is going on God has TOTAL control over. If it is hurting you God is going to use it for your good. That's why we can't lean on our own understanding because we just don't have the mind to understand what God is doing. Our thoughts are not his thoughts (Isaiah 55:8-9). So even if we tried we would never be able to figure out exactly what God is doing, and this is when TRUSTING HIM comes into play.

Even though you may not be able to trace God you still have to be able to trust Him. Believe it or not, no matter the level of pain you are experiencing now if you are able to trust God you WILL come out on top!

I never want to hear you say that you don't know what to do.

We say: Nobody cares and nobody loves me!

Word says: For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believes in him should not perish but have everlasting life. - John 3:16

God so loved the >>>world<<< not just Christians, not just one specific race, not one specific person! He loved the WHOLE world! He sent his Son for the benefit of EVERYBODY!  We just happen to be included in the whole world and that everybody category! - that's exciting!

If nobody in this world loves you, your heavenly Father loves you like crazy! Let's think about this for a minute, in reality, would you lay the life of your only son down for the benefit of someone that may never believe in you?? I'll be real! I can't say that I would! BUT GOD.......He did this for you and me! That's LOVE!! REAL LOVE!

There is no love in this world that could ever compare to the love of God. We didn't have to do anything for God to love us! He did it so naturally! There is nothing we can do to make him stop loving us! - what a joy that is.

I never want to hear you say that nobody loves you again!

#Letuspray: Father God, we come to you humbly, we thank you for giving us life and we thank you for loving us enough to send your Son Jesus Christ so that we may have total access to you. We thank you for establishing your Word in the earth so that we have a reference to refer to. Thank you for a living Word that is still relevant here in 2016. We thank you for this day we bless your holy name for you alone are worthy of all our worship and praise, we come asking that you will show us the power and authority that you have given unto us so that we can cancel all signs or emotions in relation with fear. We declare and decree that we will not let fear hold us back from our destiny, that we will run on and see what the end looks like. We will pursue everything that you have called us to pursue. We will not give up on you, we will not give up on ourselves, and we will not give up on the people that stand in need of our gifts. We thank you for blessings us with us tremendous gifts that we aren't deserving of. Oh, how we love you, Lord. We ask that you will teach us how to trust in you when we can't trace you when we can't feel your presence in our life when we really feel like throwing in the towel. When it looks like it would be best for us to give up and die, give us life and strength to carry on and not to just carry on but to carry on and win! strength to conquer, strength to rule over, to occupy what it is that you have for us. Flood us with you love Lord, that real, true, pure, gentle, caring, unconditional love that you provide for us. Please, Lord, let that love rain down on us. Let our hearts, bodies, souls overflow with that love until we truly understand the fact that you love us NO MATTER what, that you will never leave us nor forsake us that you have our back that you care! Oh, how we thank you, Lord, we bless you on today and forever more. I plead the blood of Jesus Christ over each of us now. No hurt, harm, or danger shall come upon us and our homes shall be peaceful and joyous. In Jesus almighty name we have prayed, Amen!!

I hope and pray that this has blessed you and helped you see just who powerful our words can be.
Proverbs 18:21 says that "Death and life are in the power of the tongue,
And those who love it will eat its fruit.". You have to power over what type of fruit you produce in your life. Until next time, I love you!!! SHARE THIS BLOG POST PLEASE!


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Tuesday, October 18, 2016

Our Mouth Needs An Alignment pt. 1



Often times we speak things over our lives that do not align with the Word of God at all and then we wonder why things don't work out the way we hoped, dreamed, and even prayed. Yep! I said it. Even the things we pray about never manifest because our mouths aren't in alignment with our prayers. You would think that if we prayed a thing we would believe it right? Well, unfortunately, that isn't always the case.

I've been saying all year that if we were to change our language we would change our world. So that is what we're going to focus on in this two-part series. I'll be listing a few things we say too often vs. what the Word of God says.


LET'S SHIFT OUR LANGUAGE


We say: It's impossible, there is no way this will work!


Word says: But He said the things which are impossible with me are possible with God. - Luke 18:27


We speak death over our vision before we even try to walk it out sometimes. God has given all of us a grant vision! Yes, He has, but when He gave us that vision He never excluded Himself from the equations. He calculated Himself right into the vision because He knew we wouldn't be able to do it all alone. 


If we would stop trying to do grant things without the creator and giver or our vision things would definitely go a lot better than we ever expect. Don't think for one minute that God expects you to complete that massive vision that He has given you all by yourself. NOPE! not even! He partners with us when He gives us vision so that we can carry that vision out. 


Stop stressing yourself out trying to do things on your own. Look to the one who said, "the things which are impossible with me are possible with God." (That's the type of God we serve)


I never want to hear you say something is IMPOSSIBLE again!


We say: I can't make it, I don't have enough!


Word says: And my God shall supply all your needs according to His riches and glory. - Philippians 4:19


I'm not sure what kind of God you serve but ummmm MY GOD He's mad RICH!! stupid RICH! crazy RICH! There is no need for us to wonder if we'll be able to make it because if God said he is going to do something He comes through every time. He doesn't play about His children! He wouldn't have you out here looking crazy, cup running dry! He supplies the needs of His children. We don't serve a deadbeat Daddy! He is a good good Father!!!


SIDENOTE: A lot of times we worry when we see another brother or sister being blessed because we think "What about us? If He keeps giving them stuff He will not have enough for us." 

{insert blank stare} That is NOT true! That is a trick from the enemy! His cup never runs dry so we don't have to worry about our brother and sister getting too much of what is ours, NOPE!! When you see your brother and sister being blessed celebrate their overflow, you never know what they had to go through to receive it.....

I never want to hear you say you CAN'T MAKE IT again!


DISCLAIMER: We must be a good steward of what he had given us. If we can't seem to figure out how to manage our resources don't think that the source will continually provide you with overflow.

We say: I'm not a wise person, I can't make good decisions!

Word says: If any of you lack wisdom, let him as of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach and it will be given to him. - James 1:5


This scripture clearly tells us that there is no reason we should be unclear, unsure, or uncertain about anything! Why?? because we are able to go to God and ask for the wisdom we need to make the decision. James 1:5 tells us that He gives us wisdom when we ask, not only does He give it to us.....He gives it to us liberally (ex: fully, abundantly, generously), meaning he doesn't give us half the wisdom we need to make the decisions that we need His guidance on! HE GIVES WISDOM FULLLLLLLLLLLLY!! Yep! That's exciting! 

Then check this out - (I almost passed out on this one) He gives wisdom without REPROACH (ex: condemnation, rebuke, shame), this means that He gives wisdom without judgment of what you may be asking the wisdom for. He doesn't say "that's not that important and you don't need the wisdom to make that decision! Nope, I'm not giving you wisdom!" the devil is a lie, don't let him fool you like that! You can go to God and ask him wisdom to make whatever decision you need to make whether it be a big decision or a little decision, He is willing to give you what you need!


I never want to hear you say that you CAN'T MAKE WISE DECISIONS again!

#LetUsPray: Father God, we come to you humbly, we thank you for giving us life and we thank you for loving us enough to send your Son Jesus Christ so that we may have total access to you. We thank you for establishing your Word in the earth so that we have a reference to refer to. Thank you for a living Word that is still relevant here in 2016. Give us the hope, courage, and wise we need to believe in ourselves and to trust in your timing, because we know your timing is perfect! Teach us how to lean on you when times get tough and we feel like giving up. Give us the wisdom we need to make day to day decisions that may seem confusing. Give us the words and wisdom to speak over ourselves and your people. Thank you for the authority that you have given unto us. Thank you for being who you are, thank you for always providing us with what we need whether it be financial, peace, joy, hope, confirmation, wisdom, love, truth, and more. Thank you for knowing us the way that you do. In such a way that we don't even have to ask for what we need sometimes you just give it to us. We thank you for being a God that hears our cries and delivers on your promises. Help us to genuinely celebrate our brothers and sisters as they are being blessed. Help us understand that you have more than enough blessings, that your cup never runs dry. That you have come so that we may have a life of abundance not just maintaining. Put us in the right place at the right time to be a blessing and to receive our blessings. We believe in you and every promise you have spoken to our hearts. We will go forward with the expectation of the greatness that you have set before us. I plead the blood of Jesus Christ over each of us now. No hurt, harm, or danger shall come upon us and our homes shall be peaceful and joyous. In Jesus almighty name we have prayed, Amen!!


I hope and pray that this has blessed you and helped you see just who powerful our words can be.
Proverbs 18:21 says that "Death and life are in the power of the tongue,
And those who love it will eat its fruit.". You have to power over what type of fruit you produce in your life. Until next time, I love you!!! SHARE THIS BLOG POST PLEASE!!

.....pt. 2 coming Thursday! SPREAD THE WORD!




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Tuesday, October 4, 2016

Something Is Different



It's so funny how season change and the whole world shifts. We are in the last quarter of a year that seems like it just started the other day. I can't say enough that this has been a very different year for me.

It's amazing what God can do with your life when you decide to really give it to Him and let Him have His way with you inside and out. Okay, let me get to this blog post before I start crying, shouting, and praising God lol.

One morning I woke up and EVERYTHING seemed so different. Everything had changed in my life, my relationships, my business, my heart, my everything! Yep! EVERYTHING! I was confused as to how I got here but after asking God He made it very clear as to how it happened.

He SHIFTED me! Shifted me into the place He had been preparing me for so long! A place that I had been praying for. A place of abundance, peace, and positivity. I had gone through such a toxic relationship that I had lost myself, inside and out. I had to re-learn who I was, what I was living for and who I was fighting for, I lost everything because of one decision I decided to make. A decision that was completely outside of Gods will for my life. I know you may be asking what was that decision, but we will get to that at a later date. Right now I need you to understand how important it is to allow God to restore and mend you from the inside out.

SOMETHING IS DIFFERENT:

MY HEART:
My heart is different, my heart was so broken in desperate need of mending but I was the one trying to do the mending. But I didn't have the resources to fix a heart that I didn't create. I had to literally hand God my heart because what I was doing wasn't working at all. This wasn't easy! It took more breaking before I finally decided I'd give my heart to God. I know you're thinking why did you have to give a heart to God that He created, but listen, God says for us to cast our cares on him (1 Peter 5:7) meaning He isn't going to come take what we aren't willing to give.

So once I got tired of trying to fix something that I didn't have the tools to do, He was able to actually work on my heart. My heart was bruised, broken, and crying for help because of toxic relationship after toxic relationship, issues with friends, business partners and so much more. I know that's a lot but that isn't even all lol I'm just being real.

Why I gave God my heart:

  1. I was tired of trying and failing- I promise you every time I decided to do something outside of Gods will for my life, it failed miserably. One move after another failed! It was a consistent cycle of failure and you may say you shouldn't say that, but listen I said I'm trying to be real here! All my plans failed because God was never head over my plans. I had become head of my life while still claiming I was living for Christ. How does that work? I'll tell you it doesn't, it doesn't work at all. 
  2. I was tired of feeling depressed - Depression is ultimately what sinks in when you try to do something that you thought would be your breakthrough moment and it fails. Well after multiple depressional states I began to understand what was driving me to become depressed in the first place and that was my own decision making.
  3. I was tired of my expectations never being met - I got tired of having high hopes for all of my relationships, friendships, and partnerships to only see them....well I think you know by now lol - FAIL! I had to lean on God to really understand why my romantic relationship was non-existent, my family relationships were running on low oxygen, why a lot of my once friends were just people I used to know, and none of my partnerships were lasting past a couple of weeks. This was all literally enough to drive a sane man crazy and begin to question what is wrong with themselves, but by giving my heart to God He was able to heal me internally which shined outwardly and brought several new connects into my life and restored others. He was able to show me that my expectations were unrealistic and that I needed to extend more grace upon my peers. He was able to remold my expectations and show me where I needed to heal in the area of relationships, friendships, and partnerships.
How to give your heart to God:
  1. You have to make the conscious decision to hand it over along with the baggage that occupies it. 
  2. Make it a part of your prayer every day! Ex: "Lord, I give my heart to you today!"
  3. Start a daily devotional - this will allow God to come into your heart one scripture at a time.
  4. Find a church home - It's extremely important that you fellowship with other like minded people


MY BUSINESS:
My business is different, I hadn't planned to birth some of the businesses I birth this year but that just leads me to believe that it was more God than me! Let me be real with you all. I think I have a problem I'm a serial entrepreneur and I see the potential in almost everything, which that being said I will try to do EVERYTHING! It is absolutely impossible for one person to do everything by themselves. This is where a level of frustration comes in like no other.  - I've been here before!

Why I gave God my business: 

  1. I was trying to do too much and wasn't getting anywhere fast. I had to allow God to make business decisions for me because I was not able to make them for myself. If I had the ability I'd run about 5 MLM's, 3 consulting businesses, 7 advertising businesses, and several ministries and much more but how the heck would I do that by myself. - that's why I had to go to God and allow Him to close some doors that I had beat down for myself. 
  2. I couldn't keep an assistant to save my life. I lost more than a couple assistants in a very short amount of time. And no they didn't quit, they had other things they had to tend to that were much more important than trying to help me with 100 businesses lol - I took this as a call to learn and manage my business for myself without any help so that meant that some things had to go for sure. 
  3. All of it wasn't God ordained - there were some things I was trying to do that God didn't put his stamp on. It wasn't that it was bad but it wasn't fulfilling the call God had placed on my life for that particular season. (There is a season for everything)
  4. Tired - literally exhausted from trying to do all things in a timely manner. One thing was being neglected while one thing was getting all of my attention. But once I realized I was neglecting the other thing I'd go overboard and try to make up for the time I neglected it which left me up all day and night trying to figure stuff out.
How to give your business to God:
  1. Accept the fact that you don't know it all. - I consider myself to be a very wise woman, but I don't know more than God that is for sure. Once I was able to come to this realization I was able to accept that God knows best and that if He said to let "xyz"go then He would multiply me in another area.
  2. Pray that God will reveal to you what you need to be working on in the current season you are in. 
  3. Go to God when your business is failing or not progressing.
  4. Don't ignore God's voice in your business - He is always giving you signs and hints, make sure your discernment is on fleek. 
There is so much going on in my life at the moment, but it's all good things!! After allowing God to work on my heart and my business this has made a drastic change. I had no clue how vital it was that I allow God to do what He needs to do before I can SHIFT into the place He wants me to be. So glad I decided to willing seek Him regarding the matter of my heart and business, without him having to do it involuntarily. I encourage you to do the same if you're experiencing any of the things I discussed today. 

Thank you for stopping by, I will be posting more frequently this month! Get excited! I hope & pray that this has blessed you! Until next time - I LOVE YOU!!

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Monday, July 25, 2016

Letting Go Of The Past



Holding on to the past is a future killer if you don't let go of the negative things that have happened in your past you may possibly never know what a greater future could look like because of your willingness to stay in bondage.

You hold the spark to the flame to set yourself free from all the pain, hurt, and misery. YES! YOU! No one can make you let it go but you. You have to make a conscience decision to untie yourself and walk free as the scales from the past fall off. >>>>What a freeing experience.

People ask me WHY should I let go of the past:

1. It's OVER
Holding on to what was isn't helping you heal. You have to accept that what was, is OVER! Even though it hurts like I don't know what you have to let it go. I'm telling you this because I've been there before and holding on didn't help it, it actually hurt more. Every time I thought of the events that occurred my heart would cave in, break again, and back into the down hill spiral I would go. Little did I know I was causing myself more pain than I was helping myself. That's when I decided it is time to let this  thing go.

2. It isn't helping you GROW
As children of God we should be constantly growing, moving, achieving great things but because we are holding on to the past we can't grow. We often remain in the same place month after months, because of bitterness, hatred, and resentment toward things of our past. We question God "Why can't I get ahead in this area?" not realizing that we are the exact reason why we can't get ahead.

We meet new people with the residue from old relationships, friendships, and partnerships. We begin treating them as though they have done us some kind of injustice, but in reality we are still holding on to the ways of old.

3. You're killing yourself
Holding on to your negative past is practically suicide! Thinking about these things over and over again can kill you! Don't kill yourself worrying about what has already past. If you need to seek counseling after experiencing a tragic event, DO SO!! Don't wait on any ones opinion or approval. This is about you! Your health, your future, you purpose, your destiny!

Just because you have experienced trauma and you want to get help doesn't mean that you are crazy. It doesn't mean that you deserve different treatment, it means that you love and care about yourself enough to focus on your healing.

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