Monday, June 15, 2015

Things To Do While You Wait

While you are single it is good to stay active and busy! You should utilize your season of singleness as much as possible. I have listed 8 things that you should do during your season of singleness, which will prepare you for courtship and marriage. These are also things that you can do with your mate once they come along. Let's get started:

1. Serve
Serve in all capacities, rather you serve in ministries throughout your church or non profit organizations that cater to one specific gender, youth, people that are incarcerated, homeless, or single parent homes; I encourage you to get involved as much as you can. There are plenty of organizations that need volunteers all the time. Serving will help you exercise many (if not all) fruits of the spirit. (ex. love, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, all listed in Galatians 5:22-23)

2. Travel
Travel as much as possible, before you meet someone!!!! There is nothing like seeing the world and taking in the serene views of God's creation! There is so much to see and explore in this world, don't sell yourself short by waiting on someone to travel the world with you when you can do it solo (or with close friends).

3. Learn to cook
If take out at that Chinese restaurant over on Hillsboro Pike is your definition of a good meal, maybe it is time you sit down and reevaluate your life and diet (LMBO JK)!!! Seriously my friends you need to learn how to make yourself a well balanced nutritious meal!! You can't go into a relationship not knowing how to cook for yourself, or your mate for that matter. Gender roles don't really apply as much as they did back in the 50s, the man can cook for the family sometimes as well (this is totally per relationship).

4. Learn YOUSELF
Don't be afraid to sit down and spend quality time with yourself. After all if you can't spend a hour with yourself how do you expect to spend a lifetime with someone???  Figure out some of your likes and dislikes. What are some things you will not tolerate in a courtship? What is it that you really need from your future mate? (ex. affirmation, encouragement, prayer, study time together) Are you willing to compromise? Are you willing to put in the necessary work to make it work? (ex. Christian counseling, relationship improvement conferences, etc.) Do you have areas of brokenness that you need to let the Lord fix? Do you want to be with someone more than you want to know yourself? By being in a relationship are you looking to fill a void? These are just a few important questions you need to answer long BEFORE you commit to a relationship.

5. Focus on your purpose
You don't have to wait until you meet that special person that God has for your life to pursue your purpose and passion, nobody or no one is stopping you!! Go ahead and start the business, finish your degree, write the book, step out on faith, accomplish the goal, go on the mission trip!!! Because who's to say when that person God has for you will show up on the scene!!! You don't want to spend your whole life waiting; without any accomplishments. So LIVE your very best life NOW!!! #DestinyAwaits

6. Become financially accomplished
No, I don't mean you need to become a self-made million (even though it isn't a bad idea), I'm saying you need to be will versed in budgeting. Perhaps your savings account isn't where you would like for it to be, well evaluate your living habits. Is there something you can cut out to start putting more money back? Maybe you can cut out that cup of Starbucks everyday and make your own "Starbucks" at home. Don't over spend if it isn't  totally necessary, learn to bargain shop if you need a new outfit for the banquet. Don't settle for those $100 shoes when you can get some even better for $21. Learn a thing or two about stocks, bonds, and good investments. Build that 401k!!

7. Learn how to DIY
(D)o (I)t (Y)ourself!!! This can really help in your attempt to become a master budgeter. Instead of you always going to the nail shop and hair salon spending hundreds of dollars a month, learn to do your own hair, nails, and make up. The way YouTube is set up today!!! You can learn anything from there. (Which I plan to start doing some diy videos, please, subscribe!) Learn how to make in home decorate, you may want to have some of your self made pieces in your home one day. Learn how to sew; something as simple as a button. Learn how to knit winter scarfs, hats, and gloves (this will be very useful when you have children).

8. Strengthen you relationship with the Lord
The last thing you want to happen, is for God to be so kind as to send you a mate then you forget all about him once that person arrives in your life. So if you have a solid, constant, stable relationship with the Lord the more likely you are to keep it going once you've made such a commit as courtship. Common ways to strengthen your relationship and grow in the Lord are as followed but not limited to; reading your bible, digging deep into scripture, keeping up with a devotional, reading Christian self-help books, praying, fasting when need be, and most importantly applying what you are learning to your life. Let the Holy Spirit work within you.

While you are busy doing all of these things, I don't think you'll have much time to focus on the fact that you are single!! You'll be surprised, you'll be so busy doing what God has called you to do and you'll look up one day and meet the person of your hearts desire. GET BUSY!!!
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