Monday, January 19, 2015

4 Reasons It Is Time to Let Him Go!!!

1.   He isn’t saved!

Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? - 2 Corinthians 6:14 NKJV

Relationships can be hard, even Godly relationships because everything will never be perfect, but you two understand that it’s worth it and you work towards making it work! So with all that being said if a Godly relationship can be hard and you two both believe in Jesus Christ and are living lives that are pleasing to God; how hard do you think a relationship will be if only one loves God and wants to serve him while the other isn’t thinking about God and is consumed and content with being in the world?? No need to answer that I can answer it for you…EXTREMELY!!! I’ve been in a relationship like this before. I can tell you now I’m not in THAT relationship anymore, it was draining and worrisome. I knew I was NEVER supposed to be in that relationship. Sometimes, as a woman we want to MOLD & CHANGE a man into what we WANT….but ultimately nobody can do that but God himself. Don’t be that woman 2, 4, 6 years from now wondering “why did I waste all my time trying to change a man that was never ready to change in the first place.”

2.   He clearly tells you that he isn’t ready for a relationship!

Can two walk together, unless they are agreed? - Amos 3:3 NKJV

If you have sought God and have been approved to be in a courtship and you meet a man that says “I’m not ready for a relationship.” You all are CLEARLY walking in two totally different directions. Omg!!! PLEASE listen to this man and RUNNNNN for the hills!!!  If you ask a man for TRUTH 8 times out of 10 (ok maybe less than that lol) he’ll give you truth!! I’ve talked to so many beautiful young women that feel like they can be that game changer to find out later on down the line that his word really is bond and he SERIOUSLY isn’t ready for a relationship. This does NOTHING but waste valuable time that could have been used to prepare for the man that is truly willing and ready to pursue you unto marriage.

3.   His actions speak opposite of his words!

My little children, let us not love in word or in tongue, but in deed and in truth. - 1 John 3:18 NKJV

If he tells you that he loves you and wants to be with you but refuses to make a commitment to you, I hate to be the bearer of bad news but he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you. It could be because he isn’t ready, but he likes the company of having you around. Well let me tell you this sista! You are worth soooo much more than just good company. If a man truly values you and sees the wonderful qualities you possess, nothing can stop him from pursuing you. Sista! Don’t be that woman that says “ I’m not that into titles and we don’t need one, because he tells me and shows me that he loves me.” Ummmm according to the way things are looking outside my window, we are living in our last days and NOBODY on this earth has time to waste. You deserve to know what direction you two are going in.

4.   He is willing to compromise your purity!

For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; 4 that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, 5 not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God;  - 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 NKJV

 DISCLAIMER: I haven’t always lived up to the standard, but thank God for his Son who dead for our redemption and he forgives and we can start all over! Let me start by saying, I know everybody is doing it, it’s on TV, social media, and the topic of discussion, but you are not of this world!! You are a child of God and you are called and held at a higher standard than those in the world. We must stand for holiness, because it is the standard and it keeps our minds from being blurred and our thoughts easily persuaded by what we believe is love when truly it is only lust.

 So now, back to our scheduled program; if he is willing to lay down with you without any conviction in his heart, it’s time to let him go. He is supposed to lead you to Christ not his bed! He is supposed to truly love you for who you are not lust you because of how you make him feel between the sheets. Don’t act as though you don’t know God just because you have a nice looking man in front of your face. Believe me no matter how HOT and FINE he is a moment of pleasure isn’t worth a lifetime of eternal pain.

***I hope & pray that this post has been of some help and a blessing to your life! THANK YOU FOR TUNING IN!!! There is EVEN MORE COMING SOON!!!

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